WEBVTT Kind: captions Language: en 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.540 there's a whole variety of experiences 00:00:03.540 --> 00:00:05.609 that people have that cause them to 00:00:05.609 --> 00:00:07.859 question like hey maybe I don't actually 00:00:07.859 --> 00:00:11.490 fit into the definition of you know man 00:00:11.490 --> 00:00:16.580 or woman and that there's something else 00:00:18.890 --> 00:00:22.029 [Music] 00:00:24.180 --> 00:00:27.710 I am Danny and I identify as non-binary 00:00:27.710 --> 00:00:30.590 I'm Lindsay and I identify as non-binary 00:00:30.590 --> 00:00:34.470 my name is Fang identify as non-gendered 00:00:34.470 --> 00:00:37.590 person I'm Francois I identify as 00:00:37.590 --> 00:00:40.290 genderqueer my name is James and I 00:00:40.290 --> 00:00:44.400 identify as non-binary non-binary is 00:00:44.400 --> 00:00:46.080 someone whose gender doesn't fall within 00:00:46.080 --> 00:00:49.019 the context of the binary that we set up 00:00:49.019 --> 00:00:51.330 in society I am not male 00:00:51.330 --> 00:00:53.670 I'm not female I'm somewhere floating 00:00:53.670 --> 00:00:56.330 around in there non-binary means 00:00:56.330 --> 00:00:58.470 acknowledging a wider range of 00:00:58.470 --> 00:01:01.430 experience for me it means that I'm not 00:01:01.430 --> 00:01:05.100 identified with any specific gender like 00:01:05.100 --> 00:01:08.100 male female or other things it's part of 00:01:08.100 --> 00:01:10.470 a larger kind of goal of questioning 00:01:10.470 --> 00:01:11.939 these assumptions about gender and 00:01:11.939 --> 00:01:13.500 questioning why they're only made to be 00:01:13.500 --> 00:01:15.840 - it gives me the freedom to express 00:01:15.840 --> 00:01:17.939 myself if I wake up one day and I want 00:01:17.939 --> 00:01:21.360 to spike my hair and do punk rock makeup 00:01:21.360 --> 00:01:25.799 I can do it every couple of decades some 00:01:25.799 --> 00:01:28.460 designer decides that men's shorts are 00:01:28.460 --> 00:01:32.070 you know suddenly five inches shorter or 00:01:32.070 --> 00:01:34.020 five inches longer in the 70s if you 00:01:34.020 --> 00:01:36.660 look at what men were wearing they were 00:01:36.660 --> 00:01:38.730 like Rockettes like shorts are up to 00:01:38.730 --> 00:01:40.320 here and now it's like get it you know 00:01:40.320 --> 00:01:43.409 down to the knee non-binary is freedom 00:01:43.409 --> 00:01:46.100 from that whole game I don't care what 00:01:46.100 --> 00:01:48.780 the men's department at Marshall's 00:01:48.780 --> 00:01:51.990 suddenly has decided that like men need 00:01:51.990 --> 00:01:54.960 to wear I'm gonna I'm gonna go for what 00:01:54.960 --> 00:01:58.409 makes me feel more authentic I tend to 00:01:58.409 --> 00:02:00.810 say gender is dependent on context and 00:02:00.810 --> 00:02:02.670 point of view to me it just makes me 00:02:02.670 --> 00:02:04.979 comfortable that I can just be this body 00:02:04.979 --> 00:02:06.580 that I have 00:02:06.580 --> 00:02:16.740 I identified as assist gay male 00:02:16.740 --> 00:02:20.760 cisgender is when your gender identity 00:02:20.760 --> 00:02:23.620 aligns with the gender that you were 00:02:23.620 --> 00:02:27.580 assigned at Birth based on your Anatomy 00:02:27.580 --> 00:02:30.850 I saw myself as a assess man and just 00:02:30.850 --> 00:02:32.710 thought well I I paint my nails and I 00:02:32.710 --> 00:02:34.450 weren't lipstick but I'm assist man and 00:02:34.450 --> 00:02:36.520 I knew what gender queer was a 00:02:36.520 --> 00:02:40.630 non-binary I knew of them and I was like 00:02:40.630 --> 00:02:42.580 I supported I love it but it's over 00:02:42.580 --> 00:02:44.170 there it's not that's not me I 00:02:44.170 --> 00:02:47.320 identified us male before I didn't 00:02:47.320 --> 00:02:51.010 really ever feel comfortable fitting 00:02:51.010 --> 00:02:54.250 into the masculine or male environment 00:02:54.250 --> 00:02:59.170 or just seeing myself as a man I have 00:02:59.170 --> 00:03:01.570 always had questions as a child I always 00:03:01.570 --> 00:03:04.270 like would put on my mother's makeup at 00:03:04.270 --> 00:03:10.060 her lipstick I identified quite a while 00:03:10.060 --> 00:03:13.390 before I came out to people I started 00:03:13.390 --> 00:03:17.230 identifying as non-binary when I was 17 00:03:17.230 --> 00:03:20.920 I just knew that calling myself a woman 00:03:20.920 --> 00:03:23.590 and calling myself a girl did not feel 00:03:23.590 --> 00:03:25.660 accurate and did not feel good and did 00:03:25.660 --> 00:03:28.030 not feel like a home to me at that time 00:03:28.030 --> 00:03:30.930 in my life anymore 00:03:31.270 --> 00:03:33.709 [Music] 00:03:33.709 --> 00:03:37.489 most people are still very confused 00:03:37.489 --> 00:03:42.319 about trans identity non-binary gender 00:03:42.319 --> 00:03:44.840 fluid even though it's 20 and 19 it's 00:03:44.840 --> 00:03:46.489 not something that everybody runs I'm 00:03:46.489 --> 00:03:47.810 like oh you're dead no queer 00:03:47.810 --> 00:03:49.730 yeah hugs and kisses we love you still 00:03:49.730 --> 00:03:52.069 the hardest thing about coming out at 17 00:03:52.069 --> 00:03:54.469 is no one believes you everyone is like 00:03:54.469 --> 00:03:55.909 well that's a really cute face you're 00:03:55.909 --> 00:03:58.639 having even when I'm saying what I 00:03:58.639 --> 00:04:00.950 identify with people still have a 00:04:00.950 --> 00:04:05.000 specific imagination of what that means 00:04:05.000 --> 00:04:07.120 most people are going to assume that 00:04:07.120 --> 00:04:10.010 you're one of two genders a man or a 00:04:10.010 --> 00:04:13.310 woman and so every single day you have 00:04:13.310 --> 00:04:16.000 to be correcting them and you have to be 00:04:16.000 --> 00:04:19.120 declaring that you're non-binary to 00:04:19.120 --> 00:04:21.169 pretty much every new person that you 00:04:21.169 --> 00:04:23.660 meet people often misgender me like the 00:04:23.660 --> 00:04:26.090 second I leave New York I get called 00:04:26.090 --> 00:04:28.580 ma'am like to my face a lot of times 00:04:28.580 --> 00:04:32.630 people get pronouns right twice and then 00:04:32.630 --> 00:04:35.570 I find it's often the third time that 00:04:35.570 --> 00:04:38.000 people start slipping a lot of people 00:04:38.000 --> 00:04:40.310 think that we're transitioning for some 00:04:40.310 --> 00:04:43.960 reason some people say oh so are you 00:04:43.960 --> 00:04:47.449 going through transition right now and 00:04:47.449 --> 00:04:50.120 some people asked me so do you still 00:04:50.120 --> 00:04:57.349 have Aegina simplest way to ask about 00:04:57.349 --> 00:04:59.510 gender if you don't know someone is hey 00:04:59.510 --> 00:05:01.849 friend what are your pronouns that's it 00:05:01.849 --> 00:05:03.770 a lot of us are very different some 00:05:03.770 --> 00:05:05.780 people are like don't misgender me and 00:05:05.780 --> 00:05:08.300 it's it's a big thing and I understand 00:05:08.300 --> 00:05:10.370 that really I do personally I'm always 00:05:10.370 --> 00:05:12.680 very open and happy to talk to people 00:05:12.680 --> 00:05:19.550 about it I remember a few times I went 00:05:19.550 --> 00:05:23.090 on job interviews and I dressed like how 00:05:23.090 --> 00:05:25.880 I am and I did very well in the first 00:05:25.880 --> 00:05:27.949 interview and they're like oh you did so 00:05:27.949 --> 00:05:30.740 well just when you come next time can 00:05:30.740 --> 00:05:32.750 you dress like a boy it's especially 00:05:32.750 --> 00:05:36.830 challenging in dating no one really 00:05:36.830 --> 00:05:39.169 knows how to deal with you and whether 00:05:39.169 --> 00:05:40.729 they're allowed to be attracted to you 00:05:40.729 --> 00:05:43.969 really some people they just say they 00:05:43.969 --> 00:05:46.550 want to date man the worst is whenever 00:05:46.550 --> 00:05:48.800 someone's like we'll be yeah but you 00:05:48.800 --> 00:05:51.860 have a penis right people will be very 00:05:51.860 --> 00:05:55.279 fixated with anatomical gender you can't 00:05:55.279 --> 00:05:57.409 be seen as heterosexual you can't be 00:05:57.409 --> 00:06:00.650 seen as homosexual and so when you try 00:06:00.650 --> 00:06:02.930 to date a girl it's like you're too 00:06:02.930 --> 00:06:03.979 feminine 00:06:03.979 --> 00:06:07.039 you're not masculine enough and you try 00:06:07.039 --> 00:06:08.900 to date a guy who's gay and it's like 00:06:08.900 --> 00:06:10.849 you're not masculine enough or you're 00:06:10.849 --> 00:06:12.919 too feminine or something it's always 00:06:12.919 --> 00:06:19.070 something I think people's knowledge of 00:06:19.070 --> 00:06:20.870 this is definitely getting a lot better 00:06:20.870 --> 00:06:23.990 with time we're becoming more relatable 00:06:23.990 --> 00:06:26.539 people are seeing us for who we are and 00:06:26.539 --> 00:06:28.580 so I think that that brings about this 00:06:28.580 --> 00:06:31.460 general air of acceptance I think the 00:06:31.460 --> 00:06:35.120 future of gender identity hopefully is 00:06:35.120 --> 00:06:40.330 one where we don't force the binary on 00:06:40.330 --> 00:06:43.010 everybody I think the future of gender 00:06:43.010 --> 00:06:45.860 identity is so much more like colorful 00:06:45.860 --> 00:06:49.669 and wide and different and like varied 00:06:49.669 --> 00:06:53.750 as we think it even can be I hope that 00:06:53.750 --> 00:06:56.360 the future will move towards more of an 00:06:56.360 --> 00:06:58.849 individual expression rather than this 00:06:58.849 --> 00:07:01.490 mob mentality to follow the crowd to be 00:07:01.490 --> 00:07:04.039 like everybody else I definitely wish 00:07:04.039 --> 00:07:07.009 that we can all just pass 00:07:07.009 --> 00:07:09.469 through this phase of trying to 00:07:09.469 --> 00:07:12.889 categorize it categorize people and just 00:07:12.889 --> 00:07:16.430 take them as what they are being able to 00:07:16.430 --> 00:07:18.169 reclaim our narratives I think that's 00:07:18.169 --> 00:07:21.229 the next step is that trans voices are 00:07:21.229 --> 00:07:22.969 the ones speaking for trans people and 00:07:22.969 --> 00:07:24.770 non-binary voices become the ones 00:07:24.770 --> 00:07:28.120 speaking for non-binary people 00:07:28.120 --> 00:07:31.540 [Music]